PLUS SIZE BODY CONFIDENCE – Why wouldn’t we have it?

Why hello there!

It’s been quite some time since I’ve blogged, over a year to be exact. Not sure how life got in the way but a new job and commuting seems to take up most of the time now days. Regardless, I know I need to get back into blogging as it de-clutters my mind and is truly a relaxing mechanism for me. Which means, I was finally able to make some time and write about something that I’ve been thinking about lately:

PLUS SIZE BODY CONFIDENCE – Why wouldn’t we have it?

Now plus size fashion ain’t easy. We have it all, from frumpy jersey material tops to jeans that have thick material and are super uncomfortable to wear. When I shop for my body size, I spend a lot of time and effort to find items that can be sustainable (long term), are trendy, fashionable and of course, comfortable. Then, whenever I have a chance I take some “ootd’s” and post them on Instagram.

A lot of the comments I find on my feed are from acquaintances or followers who I do not know personally, who say things like: “That’s one thing I love about you, your confidence”, OR “you radiate so much confidence”. Now don’t get it twisted, I personally don’t mind this comment. However if I were to think deeper into it, I wonder:  Can a plus size/curvy/bigger girl not be confident in her own skin? Just because I am bigger, does that mean I can’t be happy in my own body or wear trendy clothes just like the average girl?

Now, believe me when I say, I know that the intent behind this statement is probably good. I don’t think anyone would say that to be mean… or maybe they would Lol. Of course this comment can even derive from the person self-reflecting and wishing confidence upon themselves when they make statements like this but really, who knows.

Regardless, to everyone who thinks big girls can’t be confident, please know this:

Not every plus size girl is uncomfortable in their own skin – in fact for me, I have grown to love who I’ve become. I wasn’t always a bigger girl but my weight has fluctuated in the past few years due to many factors such as Thyroid issues, Cancer and of course that I am a foodie at heart. Regardless, I have learned to love and accept myself and therefore, I radiate confidence in how I present myself, walk, talk and speak to others.

I absolutely LOVE the challenge of dressing trendy using the limited resources I have. Of course I have my days of “I wish my chest was smaller” or “I wish I had a more structured jaw line” but doesn’t everyone? Regardless, why wouldn’t a bigger person be comfortable in their own skin? You don’t have to be the stereotypical norm to be feel good about yourself. If you think that case, girl you are highly mistaken – live a little.

Anyone can be confident in their own skin, you just have to learn to love and accept yourself.

Just some food for thought.

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Snap Chat – The highs and lows

Random right? Not beauty or fashion related but it seems to be an app that most of us use every single day, throughout the day so I thought, why the hell not.

Ohh Snap Chat – I love it but sometimes… no! I will not start this blog post off on a negative note so let’s start off with the positives!

Positives

1.  Staying in touch – Snap Chat is an easy way to see what your friends/family are up to without having to write much. Visuals are always my fave and without having to make meaningless conversation, you can get straight to the point with just a picture of what you’re up to/what you’re about to eat/where you’re travelling etc.

2. My Story – At first, I hardly used this tool of snap chat but when I started I realized it’s a great way to share certain things: recipes, DIY’s and even beauty looks. I’ve had a lot of people reach out to me telling me they’ve enjoyed my snap chat stories, whether it’s been recipes or me getting ready for a wedding! My snap chat story is also fun to look over at the end of the night (for me) – to see what I did, how many views, who’s been looking etc.

3. Knowing people on a different level – Ugly face competition? Pretty sure I win each and every time. No but seriously, some people put on a front and don’t share a lot on social media (which is totally fine) – but having snap chat lets you know someone on a totally different level, a more comfortable level and I laaaaaaike that!

4. (Insert city here) Life – I LOVE THIS. It really helps people understand other cultures and see other parts of the world in a different light. There is nothing negative about this, it’s actually pretty awesome.

Negatives

(Oh man here we go)

1. SELFIE VIDEOS – I literally cannot deal. I hate this so much. There are a lot of people that send me videos of them posing and making a duck face – not a selfie though, a VIDEO. WHY?! Lord. I get it, YOU LOOK GREAT, so fabulous but does someone really need to watch a video of you posing :S  This is not cool, and you need to stop.

2. STORIES – Those who send me the snaps that their adding to their story anyway… Why do you do this?! I’m probably going to look through the recent stories and see it anyway so what was the point of sending it to me (and others) separately? THERE WAS NO POINT. Side note: It’s also really irritating getting snaps of things that are irrelevant to me. I don’t need snaps of you hanging out with your friends that I do not know. That is just weird.

3. BLOGGERS/YOUTUBERS – Following SOME of my favorite bloggers/youtubers has unfortunately made me shy away from reading their posts/watching their videos. Some of them, I think, share another side of themselves which leads me to feel that they are annoying. I don’t want to get into specifics and/or talk shit buttttttt, I’ve stopped adding my favorite “celebrities” to snap chat because when I see a whole new side of them, it’s not necessarily true that I’ll like it. Disclaimer: not all of them are annoying but majority of them are.

4. Constantly SnapChatting – These are the folks that literally snap chat EVERYTHING. Oh, there’s a burger – PHONES OUT, oh someone is opening a present – PHONES OUT… WHY!? You don’t need to snap chat every moment of your life, just enjoy it and take the moment in. You won’t even remember half these memories because you’re too busy snapping them away.

Anyway, that’s my raw version of why I love and hate snap chat at the same time. Didn’t even bother editing it through to make sure no one gets offended becaaaause this is truly how I feel, and I’m sure others feel this way too J

Happy Wednesday (THE WEEK IS ALMOST OVER!!)

Xo

Anisa

Mother’s Day Tea Party | Feat. A yummy spread & recipes!

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Hi loves!

I realized, that I never made a blog post about our Mothers Day celebration we had at my home (but it’s better late then never right?). I invited my mom and dad over for Mothers Day and I knew I wanted to do something different then the typical ‘bengali styled lunch’ which usually includes, biryani, a cucumber salad, some raita and another dish consisting of veggies or meat. I wanted to do something different, that I know she would appreciate.. so I whipped together a really cute Indigo/Kate Spade/Stephanie Sterjovski inspired tea party.

The spread included, delicate cucumber sandwiches, a cantaloupe boat with fresh black berries and mint, mini quiches, samosa’s, veggie pin wheels, a special blueberry & watermelon juice and of course, tea! You wont believe how simple each of the dishes were to make and you’ll find that the common ingredients are: cream cheese, dill, mint and fruit. What I like about this spread was that I was able to do use one ingredient on a couple different items which made my life and grocery list inexpensive and easy.

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For the recipes of each dish, please see below 🙂

Recipes: 

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Cucumber Sandwiches:
1. White bread
2. Cream Cheese (softened)
3. Dill
4. Cucumbers
5. Salt & Pepper

Cucumber sandwiches are super easy, tasty and delicate. All you do is spread cream cheese (make sure its softened!) on both slices of bread. Sprinkle each side with some fresh dill, salt and pepper. After slicing some thin cucumbers (and letting them soak out their water on a kitchen paper towel), neatly distribute them on one slice of the bread. Put both sides together and cut off the crust using a serrated knife. (These sandwiches were a huge hit, especially with my dad! lol)
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Cantaloupe Boat:
1. Cantaloupe
2. Berries of your choice (I used blackberries)
3. Mint
4. Icing sugar or regular sugar

This is a super easy dish and only takes a few minutes to make. I made it the night before and just refrigerated it over night. First, cut your cantaloupe into slices and present them on a platter. Grab some berries of your choice and place them nicely around and in between the cantaloupe. Next, slice up some fresh mint from your garden and sprinkle over top. Lastly (and you want to do this moments before you serve the item) – dust over some icing sugar which will give your fruit platter a beautiful touch. I unfortunately did this the night before, and my icing sugar dissolved.

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Mini Quiches:
1. Phyllo Dough (1 box)
2. 12 Eggs (Feel free to use less)
3. A dash of heavy cream
4. Mozzarella Cheese
5. Chives
6. Sour cream
7. Lemon Zest
8. Dill

They sound fancy, but trust me it was the EASIEST dish to make (also made the night before). In a bowl, mix together your eggs, heavy cream and salt and pepper – whip it up and leave it aside for a moment. Using a cupcake tray, line your THAWED phyllo dough and make little cups. Fill the bottom of each cup with a sprinkle of mozzarella cheese and then transfer your egg mixture into each cup, sprinkling a handful of chives on top. Now bake at 375 for about 15 minutes or until the eggs are golden brown and puffed up. While this is cooling, in another bowl whisk together about a cup of sour cream, the zest of one lemon and a handful of dill. Once your eggs are out of the oven and have cooled, apply a doll up of the sour cream mixture on top and garnish with some fresh dill. VOILA!

Pin Wheels:
1. Colorful tortilla bread
2. Softened Cream Cheese
3. A variety of veggies (I used red/green/yellow peppers and onions)
4. Salt & Pepper

Spread softened cream cheese on your tortilla bread. Sprinkle your favorite veggies on top and add salt and pepper. Roll very tightly and cover with aluminum foil (or you can cut it into pieces and serve right away). I covered it with the foil, put it in the fridge and cut it into bite size pieces in the morning.

As for the samosa’s, they were bought but absolutely delicious and added that bengali touch to the tea party. Additionally, I just grabbed some blueberry watermelon fruitopia and added frozen fruits and lots of ice for a cool, cold drink. I hope you guys enjoyed the recipes and pictures!

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Thank you so much for reading!

Love,
Anisa

The Important Things

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Just over two years ago, I sat on our wedding stage fully decked out in a beautiful (and heavy!) lengha and jewelry – it was FINALLY our wedding day! I was very excited and anticipated this day because it meant that my husband and I would be together forever, inshAllah and this was just the first step. Knowing that I’d be waking up next to my best friend, have a permanent movie partner and live a long and happy life together made me feel overjoyed and excited.

Now, fast forward a couple years, and we are still who we were when we first met. We love cuddling, watching movies, and just being silly together. Allah has provided us both with new jobs that we love so much, a beautiful condo that we love to go home to, great friends and family, and just life as a happy married couple. We couldn’t be happier – we even just bought our first house (AH) and we get the keys for it tomorrow (iA).

However, in between all the good stuff, there are always sad things that happen in people’s lives – and it was no different for us. One thing I’ve come to realize over the past little while, is how important our health is –  you never know what can happen to someone in the blink of an eye.

A few months ago, I was in the ICU for something (I’ll save that story for another day) and all I remember thinking about while sedated was the desire to continue to do everyday routinely things with my husband. I didn’t want to be in the ICU, I didn’t want needles in my veins, I just wanted to live my life. At that moment, I appreciated life so much more, I appreciated all the regular things we do on a daily basis even more. While I was completely unconscious, that husband of mine stayed by my bed side, was there every time I opened my eyes, gave me water and made me smile. I remember my dad coming to me when I finally woke up and saying “Do you know how much Irshad loves you? He didn’t leave your side once.”

God, I think I fell even more in love with him at that moment. More than ever before.

Processed with Rookie(while in the ICU, I asked him to send my friends this snap chat to let them know I was doing okay)

A couple months later, I am doing okay while still checking into the hospital for routinely checkups. Throughout this whole process I truly realized how short life is… those little fights you have with your husband? Totally not worth it. Those things you get angry about – why? Those matters that you have unnecessary anxiety over? Why bother? In a blink of an eye, your life can turn completely upside down. Don’t waste what could be your last days on earth being upset over situations that won’t matter in the long run. Love those around you, treat everyone well and live your life to the fullest because you never know what can happen.

Just thought I’d share something personal for once. I’ll get back to fashion and beauty in no time.

Big shout out to my girl Hafsa who is my go to editor!
ALSO, it’s her birthday today – Happy Birthday HAFZUH!

xo.

Anisa

5 Reasons Why You Should Dress Up Every Single Day

When the weather outside is gloomy and you’re feeling down, the best way to get your mood back up into gear is by throwing on your favorite outfit and walking out of that door with all the confidence in the world.

Dressing up every day is very good for you because of many reasons. For starters, you feel beyond amazing, you are more approachable, you perform better, you are positive, and you become more confident! You never know who you may bump into that day at the office, whether it’s a CEO or a higher level executive, you could even run into an old enemy and I’m sure you want to look your BEST for that one, and lastly who knows? What if you meet a dashing tall dark and handsome stranger on the street car? You truly never know who you will meet or bump into and that’s why first impressions are always super important.

People even treat you differently when you are well dressed up as opposed to wearing old raggedy worn out clothes, they think differently of you. In an office setting, you can be seen as someone who is intelligent and ready for the day as opposed to someone who looks like they don’t care about their job or the company.

In conclusion, dressing up every day not only boosts your self-confidence and self-esteem but it also allows for great first impressions and a positive outlook for the day. Below you will find 5 reasons why you should dress up every day:

  1. It puts on your A Game – By dressing up daily, you feel confident and ready to conquer the world! You are more positive, happy and confident!
  2. It’s Fun – Who doesn’t love to dress up? Heck, we used to play dress up as kids! Why play dress up now when you actually CAN dress up. Find your style, match up items you never would before and get out of your comfort zone. Planning your weekly outfits is always fun! (well at least for me it is)
  3. First Impressions – “Dress for the job you want, not the job you have” – I am sure you have heard this quote before. Remember that you never know who you will meet that day, always dress to impress!
  4. Self-Expression – Fashion is a method of self-expression. People understand who you are by how you are dressed.
  5. Routine – By Dressing up daily, you are making a routine which is always a positive factor in life. The night before, you are laying out your clothes and ready to take on the next day. A routine is a wonderful way to get your day started; you will feel energized and awake and prepared for what’s ahead in your day.

I hope this blog post was a boost of confidence for the rest of the week! I know that sometimes we aren’t in the mood, especially with this gloomy weather in Toronto but that 5 minutes it takes to dress up switches around your whole day!

Always dress like you are going to see your worst enemy – Kimora Lee Simmons

Xoxo,

Anisa

SopTeaParty & Modah Meet and Greet

Hi Friends!

Seems like its a blogging day today. A little over a week ago, some friends and I had a very busy saturday where we attended the Silk of Paradise Tea Party to celebrate their anniversary and finished off at Modah to do a meet and greet! At the SOP Tea Party I met some amazing local entrepreneurs, got to take some pictures behind a beautiful back drop and of course sipped on some delicious tea!

At Modah, I was able to meet some awesome fellow bloggers and vloggers which gave me even more encouragement to keep on going with my YouTube videos. I also shopped of course at Modesty Collections (I cant stop) and bought some deeeeelicious halal candy from Blossom & Bean. Modah is a large store that has a variety of different vendors from women’s clothing to candy and household Islamic decor! You must check it out!

I just have to say that It’s really nice to know that our community is evolving and that our local Muslim entrepreneurs are providing such excellence! Not only does it make me happy to be apart of something so great but it gives me the encouragement to move forward in my dreams and what I want to do in life. I am truly so proud of all the vendors who have such amazing pieces of clothing for us Muslim girls to dress modestly AND fashionable, to Lindsay at Blossom & Bean who’s halal candy has opened wonders for my little cousins, LOL! and to my fellow bloggers and vloggers who’s posts on fashion and beauty show that Muslim girls can be both modest and fashionable. I truly love it all!

Pictures from both events, links to various vendors and my OOTD details are all listed below. XO!

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Saira, Fatma, Saman, Myself and Hafsaphoto (2)At the SOP Tea Partyphoto (3) photo (4) photo (5)Tphoto (8) photo copy photo

 

photo (7)These sisters drive me absolutely crazy sometimes.

OOTD Details:
Dress – Designed and made by a friend
Necklace – The Gift Of Glamour -http://thegiftofglamour.com/
Watch – Michael Kors

Links to vendors mentioned in this post:

https://www.facebook.com/SilkOfParadise
https://www.facebook.com/shopmodah
http://www.modestycollections.com/
http://www.blossomandbean.com
http://thegiftofglamour.com/

Tutu Skirts & High Tea

Tutu skirts and high tea? Absolutely.

It was a cloudy day when a few of my girlfriends and I decided to go for High Tea at the Windsor Arms in the Yorkville area of Toronto, we celebrated my 25th birthday. It was a beautiful Sunday afternoon where we updated one another on our lives and enjoyed various types of tea’s, warm raisin scones and gourmet mini sandwiches.

A fun day like this also meant planning for an extraordinary outfit. Being curvy and (I hate this word…) plus size, it’s definitely not easy finding a fabulous outfit on such short notice. With some thought and inspiration from Carrie Bradshaw and Kate Spade, I decided to design my own midi tutu skirt and have my sister in law sew it for me. We bought some lining and blush pink tulle and with a few alterations – VOILA! I was originally going to wear my midi tutu with a light grey woven sweater but seeing as how it’s summer, there wasn’t much out there. I did however go into Old Navy (I know, Old Navy?!), and found a perfect black and white striped top which I thought was very Kate Spade inspired. I paired my outfit with a heavy statement piece which was a beautiful silver necklace from my girl, Hijabi Mama (link below). I also wore my Gramercy Crystal watch from Kate Spade and some cute silver studs. Lastly, I threw on some white closed toe shoes and I was good to go!

Outfit Details:

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IMG_8347 IMG_8140 IMG_8069Midi Tutu Skirt – Designed by Anisa Haq, hand made by my SIL Shakira Synon
Top – Old Navy
Shoes – Shoedazzle.com
Watch and Purse – Kate Spade
Necklace – Hijabi Mama – https://www.facebook.com/HijabiMama
Photography by – Hafsa Pathan – http://www.hafsapathan.com/

A few more extra pictures from my 25th celebration:

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Hope you guys enjoyed this post and my outfit details! Let me know if you would like to see more of these.

xoxo