South Asian weddings can be INSANE. My husband and I had our Nikkah June 9th 2012 and had our Gaye Holud and Reception a year later in August of 2013. We have a huge family + a LOT of family friends which made our wedding enormous! I had 7 bridesmaids and 6 Cousinmaids on my side of the wedding party and a 20+ people dance crew for our big dance finale. We had family come to the wedding from all over the world (Houston, Florida, Bangladesh, the UK, LA etc), which was a lot of fun because the house was full of family which made the illusion of the wedding actually come to life! The planning took a couple years to commence but thankfully I had my parents to help me out big time. We also hired a wedding planner (A Shahzadi Affair) a year into the planning process to help us execute efficiently.
Today I wanted to talk about my wedding festivities and give you some pointers to help you plan your dream wedding accordingly. Now, I am a pretty psychotic person in terms of attention to detail and extreme organization. Although I know that most people aren’t this way, if you want a extravagant wedding with details, you must plan ahead!
I remember when we had Farah from A Shahzadi Affair over to our house for our first meeting, I already had mostly everything planned out and chose all of the vendors I wanted to visit. She was there to help me get to where I wanted to be and make sure that everything went smoothly the day of the event(s).
I started planning my wedding when I was 5 years old #noreally. I have always wanted a big wedding, always printed pictures to add into my wedding folder, I wanted bright colors, lots of music, dance and good food. I wanted good memories, amazing pictures and an awesome highlight to remember it all. Over the years, I thought of the color scheme I wanted, the songs I wanted my friends to dance to and the entertainment we would have at our Gaye Holud. But all of this doesn’t come to life without proper planning!
There are 3 specific things I started working on 2 years before my wedding date. They were:
1. The Wedding Party
2. A Wedding Planner/Agenda
1. The Wedding Party is extremely important when you are holding a 550 + people event (or any event at all). Those who are close to you will probably be your bridesmaids/groomsmen. In the heat of the moment, you might say “I want this person to be my bridesmaid, I want this person to be my bridesmaid, OH AND THAT PERSON TOO!” But keep in mind, is it really necessary?! When choosing your bridesmaids, try not to think about who’s feelings you may hurt in the process. This is your time and it’s okay to be a little selfish and keep those who are close to you even closer. The first 3 people that come to your mind are probably the best fit to help you on your wedding day. You want bridesmaids and groomsmen who are helpful, active and just as excited as you are for your wedding. Do not just pick anyone and everyone just to make them happy because in the end, you will find yourself stressing to make them happy. In addition, you’ll be dealing with un necessary drama, leave that baggage out the door! #itsnottheirday #sorrynotsorry.
Decide who is really important in your life and who will/can help with your wedding and not just look pretty for pictures. #truestory. Remember that sometimes weddings can either make or break people, if you feel that a relationship could be in jeopardy, make note of that and execute efficiently.
“Pictures should reflect the good times of your wedding with the people that matter and that means to have people around you that love and care for you”
2. Agenda/Wedding Planning Book – As lame as this sounds, it’s a pretty good investment. Think about it, 10 years down the road you can view your wedding book and all the fun but stressful moments you had during your wedding planning days.
Having an agenda and writing it down really helps the process. It helps you remember notes about certain vendors, “to do” lists and scheduled appointments. Most wedding planning books that you can find at stores like Indigo and Chapters include tabs (Entertainment, Food, Wedding Party etc) which can help you organize your wedding properly. They also have pockets for you to keep brochures and any necessary paperwork you may need. These books range from $20-60 and are super cute!
“You want to be organized throughout the whole process and be able to look back at all the planning it took to make your dream wedding”
3. Vendors – OH MY GAWD. Can I just say how important vendors are in this whole process? DO YOUR RESEARCH! Take your time and don’t just choose a vendor instantly because you are sick of the process and just want to get it over with. No no no! Vendors are extremely important when planning your wedding, they MAKE your vision come true and without the right ones you’ll see yourself being really upset the day of.
Compare prices of various vendors, make sure you vibe with the person (especially if they are your videographer and photographer) and check reviews online. A great place to see reviews is http://www.shaadisource.com.
Read every contract very thoroughly. For videography and photography, make sure you know when you should be expecting your videos and pictures. I know a couple who have waited over one year just to get their video and that’s totally un acceptable! Remember, a vendor should only take on as many weddings as they can handle. If they are going to make you wait forever for your pictures/video, they are not worth it.
“Vendors make your vision come true, choose wisely”
Of course there are even more pointers to help you plan for a perfect wedding but I find that these 3 are pretty important things that can help you in the long run plan and organize your wedding successfully! I personally had a great time planning my wedding. Of course, there are things that I wish I did differently but I think everyone thinks like that. I’m glad to say that the wedding was successful and everyone had a good time.
Check out our highlight video above!
Some blogs about our wedding: