My post was influenced by Lauren Conrad’s latest blog entitled: “Ladylike Laws – Wedding Guest Etiquette” that I saw this morning and absolutely loved! Are you a guest at a wedding this summer? There is a lot of hidden etiquette and unwritten rules that most guests attending a wedding do not know. Sometimes it is a good idea to read over some unwritten rules to know how you should or should not act and what you should or should not do. Some may seem really minor but keep in mind that the couple (and their family) take a lot of time and money to plan their dream wedding, they want it to be just perfect and will need your help to make that happen! Check out my rules below and feel free to add more into the comments section below!
- Be Polite – Do not ask to bring a “plus one” if you were not given one originally. There is a reason you were not given one as the bride and groom spend a lot of time on the guest list and eliminate guests who they cannot fit into their budget.
- Do not wear Yellow – You would think this is a rule that people follow but you would be surprised. Usually at a Haldi ceremony or Gaye Holud, the bride wears yellow. Do not come to the ceremony wearing yellow, even if you think it is another shade of yellow, just change your outfit. Don’t dress to compete.
- Gifts – The bride and groom spend lots of money per head. It is appropriate to gift the bride and groom the approximate amount of what each head costs. Usually the Bride and Groom are spending approximately $60- $150 per plate, if you are a family of 4 then your envelope should reflect how many people are attending from your family.
- Punctuality – Of course it is common for a wedding to run a little later to ensure that everything is running efficiently. Do not show up at the wedding when the Bride and Groom are about to walk in. You are really and truthfully ruining their moment as they have to wait for you to be seated before they walk in.
- RSVP – I get it, you work 9-5 and your life is difficult. Do you think it is easy for the Bride and Groom to chase the guest list to find out if they are attending? Don’t be selfish. It literally takes 1 minute to hit yes or no on their wedding website. Also, do not RSVP for uninvited guests.
- Social Media – If the Bride and Groom have any specific wishes, please follow them. Some weddings discourage tweets while other Brides and Grooms provide a hashtag to use throughout the night. Follow the social media rules accordingly. Also, it is pretty odd when a guest attends the wedding and only uploads selfies or pictures with their friends. Go to the stage and take a picture with Bride and Groom, it doesn’t hurt.
- Children – If you have a younger child who is simply in a bad mood the day of the wedding, it might be a good idea to take them outside during the quiet wedding ceremony or traditional rituals that are taking place. Don’t be one of those parents that let their child run around like crazy and ruin the Bride and Groom’s entrance/moment.
- Sit at your assigned table – Do you really think that the Bride and Groom did not think out where and who you would be comfortable sitting with? There is a lot of time spent on seating arrangements. It’s rude to go ahead and place yourself wherever you want because quite frankly, you are messing up the seating situation for everyone else.
- Bridesmaids Duties – No one said you have to be up the bride’s ass. What you can do though, is at least be there for bridesmaids pictures instead of hanging around the lobby with your boyfriend and being inattentive.
- Religion – Do not be disrespectful of the couple’s religious or cultural traditions. This might mean covering your shoulders in a Church, Temple or Mosque. This could also mean, being quiet during a ritual you do not quite understand.
- Your Attendance – If you are not attending the full wedding ceremony, that is fine. Do not accept the invitation and leave shortly after saying your hello’s with the couple. You just wasted a seat that could be given to someone else and money that was spent for your plate.
- Don’t be all about your own wedding – If you are getting married shortly after this couple, congratulations! Today however belongs to another couple – consider your wedding to be off topic for just this day.
Some of these unwritten rules may have come across too straight forward but until you plan a wedding yourself, it is difficult to understand. Try to be courteous of the couple that is getting married and have proper etiquette!